It’s a book by Amy Spencer named after a Spanish phrase referring to meeting “the one.” This is a dating optimism book and I think that everyone can benefit from it. I don’t even know where to begin because from the very moment I picked it up, so many things kept me riveted. To start at the start, Amy witnesses her sister manifest an amazing wish into reality and decides to do the same with her love life. Amy at this time is a thirtysomething New York city writer, successful and single, just like so many of my friends, including myself! Amy is also panicking at the thought of being thirtysomething and single, just like so many of my friends, and not so much myself…seriously! Here are some very refreshingly simple insights that everyone should remember before going into panic, or even worse, desperate mode!
-You don’t HAVE to settle. You don’t settle for a plate of bad food or a crappy job…why do you want to settle for someone that you have to spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE with? Imagine someone sitting down with you and offering to pay for whatever meal you want. You can have rack of lamb flanked by sauteed spinach chased with some savignon blanc and finished up with something chocolate ganache-y. But instead, you say, no thank you, I’ll just have the bread basket and water. DON’T SETTLE.
-You DO want a relationship. Don’t start internalizing this catchphrase that you “don’t need a man,” and that you’re “too independent,” and that “you’re already happy.” If these things are true, then more power to you, woman…but you can still WANT a relationship. And you know that you do.
-Make it KNOWN. Change your facebook status to interested in “relationships,” tell your friends that you’re single and ready to find someone, even in conversations with men, be honest, don’t try to put up this too-cool-for-school, don’t-need-any-help front, it’s only going to hurt you when that guy makes a mental note not to take you too seriously.
-Get EXCITED! It’s going to happen, there’s NO DOUBT about it. You are going to find your “half-orange,” your “soulmate,” the person who will just “do it” for you, who just “gets you,”…the relationship that’s just “so easy.” That’s going to happen! You just have to believe it and then be excited for it! Imagine that a fortuneteller is looking into her crystal ball and saying to you, “insert name…the love of your life will walk in to your life in exactly one year from now.” Imagine that feeling of relief and then excitement that will wash over you. Feel that and live life now, knowing that. You can go off and do whatever you please now. Go live it up, have fun with friends, family, dates…it’s your time to explore and not stress over speed-dating and “increasing your odds” of finding him. He will enter your life when you will him to do so.
I can’t write much more about this because it will go on forever. Please just get Amy Fisher’s book, “Meeting Your Half Orange,” and then tell me what you think. Love =)
